I have a big problem with quotes like these, and the type of self-interested friendship’s and relationship’s they encourage. While I understand the root of where the idea behind the quotes originate, with a desire to have people in your life who are willing to make the effort, I think it can be abused. I think most everyone can agree that relationship’s are a two way street, but this seems to suggest that it’s the job of the person opposite to make that first step. People don’t like to feel vulnerable to rejection, even in the most slight of ways, but it’s necessary in order to create deeper friendships. Necessary from both participants. We need to have that humility to be that type of individual who will willingly and openly affirm our friends and make that effort to know them. When we read a quote like the one above we imagine ourselves as the author, but instead why not imagine ourselves as the potential friend in question? Would we be willing to make the phone call? To show them that we care? To tell them with words of how much they mean to us? Lastly, if a friend does fail you, (and eventually they will because non of us are perfect) does that mean they’re not worth your time? I don’t think so.. otherwise we’d all be friendless. I know I would, because I’ve let down so many people in my life whom I’ve cared about. We should be a harder judge on ourselves at how to be a good friend to others, and quicker to show forgiveness where our friends fall short.
Anyway, those are my two cents. Let’s be more open to pursuing people without the idea of expecting something back in return. Instead, let’s just be pleasantly surprised when and if we do.
I definitely took a venture in a different direction with my latest piece, the illusion, and not necessarily a road I plan to continue down but I wanted to experiment and I’ll probably do a lot more random paintings in the future that in the end I’m not madly stoked about. I’m always terrified of making bad art, but I’d like to just shake that insecurity off and just enjoy the freedom of making mistakes and learning as I go.
I like the illusion for it’s softness and lack of contrast. It’s only 14 x 11 inches in size, and a real challenge to get detailed on such a small scale. I had forgotten those frustrations, having been working on a more forgiving scale recently.